A better way will present as long as you don’t give up that intention and doing small things to find it. I always wished for a bug magical moment, and it never happened. It took about 3 years of active trying to make a real change.

I had the whole lecture in my head too… until I was lucky enough to write it down here on this blog. Man, it has felt to get all of that our in the open.

You are welcome!

Like I said, A Perfect Storm of sorts, as the way out isn’t as easy or obvious as I would hope, but God willing, a better way will present if I keep working on finding a solution. I have a whole lecture (diatribe? :D) in my head I think entering dental students need to hear, not just to hear me vent, but to grasp the reality of dental school and the industry they are going to be a part of- not that I assume my experience is the most common one, but as some of us have found, there is much to this picture we are never shown. Thanks for your words of support .

Hi syed, your story has so many interesting elements to it. The fact that you work “for [your] very financially successful dentist wife,…” must create even more pressure. I used to feel inadequate in my working situations because my bosses had so much more drive and desire for this field than I did, and I worried about disappointing them or appearing lazy. It sounds like the rest of us that it’s just not the right career for you. I do hope you get the chance to make some sort of change. I think it will light up your life and just add to the blessings you are already grateful for.

Thanks…working on it 🙂

Hello syed
I hear you ! I have a toddler and another ion the way and as much as I’d like to change my career – unfortunately it’s not something I could immediately do . However, attempting to take baby steps in what you do like will help – even cutting back your week by a few hours and having some time to yourself will help . This is what I have done and it gives hope – in addition I have made some minor progress in other areas I enjoy even if just to prove to myself that I can do it . As difficult as it appears just take a small step – you never know where it leads you !. Good wishes

Married with 2 young children, in the USA . Kind of a perfect storm, as I hate doing clinical dentistry (won’t claim I’m any good at it even after over a decade of trying ), work for my very financially successful dentist wife…at her office..who thinks I’m just lazy, etc. Since my financial contribution to the family is scornfully low, any attempt at anything new would be unsupported
and seen as selfish and irresponsible. It’s ok, though- everyone is healthy, and my kids are getting good educations, and I’m not ungrateful for such great blessings…

Thank you. I know, some circumstances definitely make it harder to make the change. Do you have a large family? What part of the world do you live in?

Thanks! 🙂