Comments on: How to Get Out of Your Own Head https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/ Getting Real About Your Dental Career Tue, 21 Nov 2017 22:06:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.1 By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4606 Tue, 21 Nov 2017 22:06:00 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4606 In reply to Ingrid.

Agree with everything you said… how he looks and karma! Actually, it’s all working out. Oddly enough, several of our contacts know him, and so I’m sure the truth is making the rounds. Now I think the whole thing is funny.

]]> By: Ingrid https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4605 Sun, 19 Nov 2017 16:21:37 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4605 In reply to lolabees.

Small world isn’t it? Perhaps I shouldn’t say this, but even in the photo he comes off looking like an entitled jerk ? Remember – karma’s a bitch! Keep smiling ?

]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4604 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 23:03:46 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4604 In reply to Ingrid.

OMG, this is the funniest thing, Ingrid. So obviously you sparked me to look into it, and I sent the information to my husband. He is out of town, and the guy he happens to be with right now who doesn’t even live in Colorado knows him!! Life is funny… I’m LOL’ing right now.

]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4603 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 22:15:59 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4603 In reply to Ingrid.

Ingrid… you are making me want to edit my post to include his personal information!! LOL So your comment made me go look him up, and what is so interesting is that there were 3 guys that looked alike in the line up and 2 others guys that looked alike. The guy who did it was 1 of the 2. I actually picked the wrong one of the 2, so I was actually pretty close!!! I guess now I’m laughing about it. And I guess I’m not really over it or as noble as I want to be because… er… this is him!

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]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4602 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 22:06:42 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4602 In reply to Mark.

Mark, absolutely– it get us nowhere and only makes US suffer! It does nothing at all to punish the other person. I tend to hold on for too long, and so I was impressed that this really only took one day. 😉 I have been finding that we (dental types) have a perspective in which we really value taking care of other people (seems obvious, right?) For me, at least, I am starting to realize that my frustration often stems from my expectation that because I value doing what’s right for other people, they should do the same for me. However, not everyone values this, so when they let me down or they don’t do the right thing, it sets me up for frustration.

That’s so cool to hear that you have used this technique in the past. It really works!

]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4601 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 03:14:57 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4601 In reply to fragglerocking.

Fraggs, isn’t that crazy? I still can’t fathom how our system is designed to protect the bad guys over the good guys. Grr!! I’m glad at least they have a reasonable standard there. I’d say I’m the “Phil” in my relationship. My husband gets over things more quickly than I do, and he knows (sometimes) to give me time!. It’s a wise move on your part. 😉 I think you’re lucky to have learned that life isn’t always fair. It helps to move on faster when you know that. That karma thing is one of the things I use… it helps… a little. I also sent him all of my bad juju. Was proud this one only took me 24 hours….

]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4600 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 21:51:49 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4600 In reply to Eric R.

Eric, thanks. That is part of it for sure. I know I never would do this to someone else. Ever. Had he stopped and apologized, I probably would have gotten his insurance info just in case, but maybe would have never bothered with it because the damage was so minor. It’s about principle and about treating others with kindness.

Your traffic incident is the perfect similar situation. No harm, no foul– but NOT RIGHT!! And, as you say, who knows what a person with this lack of ethics might do to harm to someone else. I had to settle on the Universe and karma taking care of this man also. It was part of my rationalization. It doesn’t quite satisfy like real, tangible consequences, but it has to do when we can’t get a resolution. I think we all waste some time on these types of things, but for me that is the key– the sooner, the better. I”ll be interested to know if you ever have the chance to try it in the future, how that goes for you.

Such an interesting process to do with a career change… will have to see how that pans out for people. I wonder how clearly you would have been able to see while still knee deep in everything? Maybe you have so much more clarity now, that it makes so much sense. Interesting… I wonder how much separation we need to really think clearly about it, and could this approach give the objectivity sooner?

]]> By: Ingrid https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4599 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 19:13:07 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4599 I’m not sure I would’ve gotten over this without posting his name and license plate number. Life is interesting these days and it seems criminals have more rights than victims, but that’s another post ?

]]> By: Mark https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4598 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 19:01:19 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4598 Sometimes it difficult to let go of feelings that you have been ‘wronged’ in some way. Though the person who suffers more in the end is you for not letting go. It’s a double whammy.
I wish I could ‘move on’ with greater ease than I do. I think it a personality trait of caring people who do their best by everybody and then get treated by someone or something in a way you would never do and then getting overly annoyed by the injustice of it all!
I like your way of dealing with it though. Retelling the story to yourself which will help you detach from the issue. I’ve done this a few times and realised when I needed to drop an issue. (For my own sake!)

]]> By: lolabees https://www.lolabeescareercoaching.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-head/#comment-4597 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 16:15:53 +0000 http://lolabees.me/?p=6824#comment-4597 In reply to signorad.

I guess it’s part of the human experience, isn’t it? One of the types of injustices I was referring to was an example like yours. You were betrayed by people you had relationships with and you trusted. That is much more personal and has more charge. That would take anyone a while to let go. When we don’t get closure on these events, it’s hard to move on. Time is the ultimate healer for many challenges, but I think about how much suffering we expose ourselves to that may not always be necessary. It’s so cliche, but it’s also so true that we are the ones that suffer the most when we hold on to things. I’m glad to see you have made some progress for yourself in moving forward and that you are in a better place. I’m sure you will get there too.

And I love the idea of karma! It helps me too. 😉 I also believe that it’s okay to fantasize about revenge as a way to move through our emotions. We are taught we shouldn’t have negative thoughts ever, but I pushing those real thoughts away and pretending they aren’t real actually makes them stronger.

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